: a keen sense of what to do or say in order to maintain good relations with others or avoid offense.
I feel that this is a very underrated ability. One that, in my opinion, a lot of people overlook. I was speaking to a few people the other day, we were discussing music and the reasons why the majority of artists cannot sustain the greatness that they enter the industry with. I like having these types of conversations because there aren’t very many ways that these convos can go wrong. We were all in agreement that it happens and so the next step was to determine why. I was enjoying myself greatly and then a girl that we all know approached us and started talking. She was greeted with great energy and she had made it clear that she was not going to be staying in our company for very long. Then, she did something that I still don’t understand. She turned her attention to me and went on to say something personal, that I didn’t really want to be known by the other folks around me at that moment, in the vicinity of the group and others, preceded by “I hate to burst your bubble”. I had to let her know that what she said didn’t have the specified effect and I shrugged it off but it was a little strange, can’t lie about that. Now to be honest, what she said wasn’t really that bad but it was the timing of it. And I would have assumed that she would have known that. She didn’t see any problem with it but I couldn’t understand why she would have mentioned it the way she did. So there is the reason for this post. Tact. Understand the situations that you are in. Know that just because you feel comfortable saying something to someone at a specific time, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is the right time to say it. You may think that this is a very obvious thing and that everyone knows this but if that were the case, this post wouldn’t be.
I don’t really expect to create any change with this post but I feel that if I don’t say anything, I’ll be complicit to this lack of subtlety. It’s all love. Just think before you say what you wanna say.